• jasphert posted an update 3 months ago

    Dating is exciting and challenging at the same time. It can also be a reason for apprehension. Especially when you’re past forty, bouncing back from a divorce, or any one of several other reasons why you’re newly single. Women are stronger, more independent and more career oriented than ever. Which, means even making time to date for some women can be a real challenge. However, keeping a few critical things in mind can definitely make dating a little less stressful.

    Be true to who you are as a person. – You know the qualities that you desire in a mate. Don’t compromise in your desires or standards. I’m not saying that the person has to be perfect. None of us are perfect. However, you do need to realize that you can’t change anyone. So remember that what you see is generally what you get.

    Be honest! – The truth will always prevail. So just be honest about who you are, what you’re like, and what it is that you want in a relationship, and in life. Starting out with half-truths or even a lie will definitely come back to bite you.
    Ask the questions that you really need and want to know the answers to. – Have you ever been married? Do you have children? And when the time is right, are you able to provide me with the results of a recent HIV test? There are of course, a host of other questions you will need to ask to facilitate the getting to know you process. Don’t leave things to chance. Be informed so you can see clearly the person that is standing in front of you.

    Don’t be afraid to be you. – Trying to be who you think the new person in your life wants you to be is definitely not the way to go. Give them an opportunity to know the real you because believe me, the real you will show up eventually. Of course, we want to put our best foot forward when we meet someone new. But saying you like sports when you don’t, trying not to curse and you know you curse like a sailor, and saying you don’t drink when you drink at least two beers everyday after work is something totally different. If those are things you want to stop doing, then just say that. Again, be honest.